You murmured in your tents, saying, '"Because G‑d hates us, He took us out of the land of Egypt to deliver us into the hands of the Amorites to exterminate us." (Deuteronomy 1:27) Really, He loves you, but you despised Him. As the common saying goes, “Whatever is in your heart towards your friend, you imagine he feels towards you.” (Rashi) Often we justify our own feelings by projecting them on others, twisting the entire relationship backward and upside-down. We can’t get our way, so we say, “I’m doing everything to accommodate them, and they’re being so stubborn.”And they say, “But it’s just the opposite! You won't give an inch!”We don’t want to be around people, so we feel, “I’m trying to be nice to them, but they don’t want me around.”And they say, “We would love to have you around, but you don’t seem to want to be here with us.”In just the same way...